Dear Abby: They changed the dates of our big trip and didn’t tell me about it

DEAR ABBY My mom invited all of my family on an international trip planned for October with two years notice Related Articles Dear Abby My husband texted his ex and talked to a divorce lawyer Should I be concerned Dear Abby They ask about the ring my husband gave me and I don t know what to say Dear Abby The graduate s guest list threatens to create unwanted drama Dear Abby I don t love him but I m thinking he might be the smart choice Dear Abby How should I warn them about what s happening in the breakroom A year later my sister petitioned me if I could cover various things for her in the months before the trip When I agreed and solicited why she noted she and our parents were going on the trip four months early I was shocked No one had commented the departure date was being moved up I required my other sister about it and she was also still under the impression we were going in October When I brought it up to my mom she got very defensive and stated we were all invited to come in the summer No we were not The plans changed and only one sister and her family were included They are on the trip now and I don t want any part of it They are posting pictures to our family group chat and I have decided not to look at them I m not sure how to move forward from here I m sad and frustrated over this while they are pretending everything is fine LEFT BEHIND IN COLORADO DEAR LEFT When your mother and sister return from that trip there demands to be a frank family discussion about what went wrong and why neither felt it was necessary to inform you that you and your other sister were excluded and why Pretending something that happened never happened never works out and if it isn t repaired the fallout can be long-lasting DEAR ABBY My son is a loving husband father and son He coaches his -year-old son my grandson in various sports and sometimes is just a spectator I m worried because he often berates his son s playing ability He has yelled at him during and after games whether he is coaching or not He yelled and screamed at him in front of everyone and later at home I have explained my son to no avail that it s OK to give constructive criticism but without the yelling I have communicated him how it crushes my grandson each time he does this My daughter-in-law is also at a loss for how to change his behavior My husband coached my son in sports when he was young and he was hard on him too I love my family dearly but I don t know what to do in this situation Abby what do you think we should do HEARTACHING GRANDMA IN NEW JERSEY DEAR GRANDMA Your son may be a loving husband but he could use specific coaching as a father Related Articles Asking Eric I determined out my daughter is having a party and I m not invited Harriette Cole After years his dead girlfriend still hovers over our relationship Miss Manners She took me to an expensive restaurant and committed a crime Dear Abby My husband texted his ex and talked to a divorce lawyer Should I be concerned Asking Eric She thinks the bear in her yard means she s particular kind of saint Someone should point out to him that when a parent bullies a child about his poor athletic performance it rarely produces a positive upshot It makes him lose interest in the sport and damages the youth s self-esteem and the effects can sometimes last a lifetime After your grandson has had enough of the verbal abuse don t be shocked if he drops out of the sport Your son should have learned from the terrible example his own father set that this kind of coaching usually doesn t produce the desired development He should take out his aggression elsewhere Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA